|Lots of distractions along the chaotic path forward.|
Being everything to everyone will overwhelm and dilute you. So don't.
Ditch it: Lots of things you do don't actually need doing.
Politely Decline: You don't have to attend events or activities you'd rather avoid. Don't agree to things you'll resent.
Delegate: Get other people to help. Family dinner? Maybe you don't have to do it all yourself. Ask people to bring things. They'll be pleased to help and it will make things easier for everyone.
Automate: If you can program away your responsibilities, you won't have to spend much time on them. You do this already. The thermostat turns the furnace on and off so you don't have to. Next step? Basic computer programming: codecademy.com
You can outsource your cooking, your cleaning, your shopping and your decorating, but you can't outsource your relationships.
Take care of you: If this were an airplane, they'd tell you to put on your own oxygen mask before assisting someone else. If you pass out you can't help anybody and you need help. One less helper, one more victim. Bad news all around.
Fulfill your mission: Once you eliminate all the things you don't need to do, use the time well. Volunteer, write that novel, take that trip, fulfill that dream. Make your friends say wow!
Say no to the distractions that will steal your time and attention.
Got lots of stuff to do? What if you don't? What could you accomplish instead?